Deeper thoughts

Walter and I were talking today about things, and as usual things turned from the superficial into an honest, deep conversation. We ended up talking about perfect partners, relationships, and since my sister has instructed me to blog about "deeper" issues and things, here I am sharing it.  I was trying to remember how this was brought up so I went back into our conversation and found exactly how our topic started. Oh yeah THIS way:

Walter: what do you think of this bet Zach and Jess have concerning you and mawwaige?

 Also....I think I may need a new wallet....it's looking pretty beat up.

Yeah. My roommate and her boyfriend have a bet regarding my current relationship. However there is no money involved, or a bracket with specific dates and if you land closer to the "winning" one you get the pot. Or at least I hope there's not. I think it's just a discussion between the two of them so they can transition into their own plans etc. I'm not going to tell you what the bet is right now because my boyfriend reads this and I'd like to keep him around for a bit longer. Hi Dave!

Anyhow, we got to talking and I ended up telling him about how I carry this list in my purse of qualities and traits my "perfect" guy would have. Now please don't think that when I meet someone during our first date I pull it out and scrutinize him checking off everything one by one. This is like a reminder for me of what I want, and what I should strive to have so that I don't settle. Walter doesn't have a list but I encouraged him to make one, so he knows what he's looking for....eventually. I actually added a couple of things to my list today too after talking it out. After my past two relationships I've learned a little bit more about what I want and need. Today I added fighter, and a communicator. I need someone that is willing to fight for our relationship, who won't just give up when times get hard. A communicator---now I don't think I could ever be in another relationship with someone that didn't communicate. I know it's so cliche to say women like to talk about things and my boyfriend, husband, lover, fiance etc doesn't open up. But you know what? ANY relationship needs open communication to work. It's not healthy to keep things bottled up inside and make the other person guess or leave them completely in the dark. Not to say that everyone shouldn't have their own personal things they keep for just them, but if you're in a relationship you have to be willing to open up and share certain things. By all means you don't have to do a play by play of your day (and then I got up and peed and then I used my new Colgate toothpaste...zzzz shoot me now) but important and significant things should be shared and talked about.

In the end I just want me and my friends to be happy. And I think we all are.